Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that He may lift you up in due time. 1 Peter 5:6
One morning, back when my kids were probably seven, five and one, the stars magically aligned and I was able to make everyone’s bed before school. All day long, as I glimpsed those smooth surfaces, I felt a sense of peace and accomplishment. They were the only clear expanses in my otherwise messy and chaotic house. Wanting more of that, I set that as my daily goal.
Time has melted away, like it always does in motherhood. Somehow, my kids have turned twelve, ten and six in a blink of an eye. Along with them growing up comes an increase in their responsibilities. Some things that were on my plate have shifted to theirs. Making their own beds before school is now their job.
The other day, when I passed by all those made beds, I flashed back to that day five years ago. I stopped in the hallway and let that feeling of peace and accomplishment wash over me. However, right behind came the memory of all the frustration and defeat I felt during the years in between. In that moment, standing in my hallway, I wished I could have told my old self to relax and quit striving; those beds did get made in due time.
Unfortunately I can’t; no one can turn back time. But I can learn. I can realize that whatever I’m longing for now, whatever I’m endlessly spinning my wheels to achieve, will probably happen, in due time. Circumstances always change. My kids are far less needy now than they were five years ago. Five years from now, they’ll be that much more independent.
It’s a new year: a chance to create new goals and have new aspirations. Being me, I tend to go overboard with my New Year Resolutions. I have a list a mile long of hopes and dreams I want to accomplish. However, if I want things to be different, I need to be more realistic about what is and isn’t possible, based on this season of my life.
I’ll still try hard to improve, learn and grow. But I’m only going to work towards what’s truly attainable. And when I miss the mark (because I know I will), I want to extend grace to myself. I want to do away with needless frustration. If I can’t achieve some things this year, I have to humble myself and hope that perhaps I’ll achieve them… in due time.
Questions For Reflection:
* Have I set some goals for myself in the past that just weren’t realistic, based on the circumstances then?
* What are the goals I am setting for myself now?
* Are they truly realistic for this season of my life?
* If/when I don’t succeed, can I extend grace to myself, knowing that most things will happen, in due time?