Letting Him Speak

I prayed to the God of heaven and then answered the king….   Nehemia 2:4

4.19.18 with word overlayWe have a bully who lives in our neighborhood. He used to be a good kid, and a friend of Zack’s. We even had him over for several play dates. I really liked him.

But something changed: He turned mean. Unfortunately, he made Zack one of his primary targets.

I’ve always wondered what happened to this boy to cause such a negative transformation. I believe he’s probably still a good kid at heart, but it’s hard for me to remember that when I want to flatten him for being so unkind to my son.

As fate would have it, our paths crossed this past summer.

I was in my car, by myself, going to pick up one of my kids. His little sister was running a lemonade stand on the corner. I pulled my car over to buy a cup.

As I did, this boy rode his bike right up to my window, took off his bike helmet, and said “Hello”” I was floored! I couldn’t believe he could treat my son so poorly, but be so chipper and sweet to me. Did he forget Zack and I were related?

Without thinking, I said hello back. Immediately after, I felt guilty and disloyal to my son. Then I was torn. The mama bear in me wanted to yell at him and teach him a lesson; the Christian in me wanted to rise above (But I have to admit, the Christian voice was a mere whisper compared to the mama bear roar inside my head.). As his sister took forever to pour my cup of lemonade, I silently prayed to God to give me the answer.

Then, like an out of body experience, I heard myself ask him, in a gentle voice, “Why do you pick on Zack?” He paused for a minute, and then said, “I’m just going along with everyone else.” From what Zack’s told me, I knew this kid was the ring leader; but I played along.

Then, suddenly, I heard myself say, “I know you’re a good kid; I know you have a good heart. You don’t need to do what everyone else is doing. You’re your own person. You can make a big difference, if you stop.” Then I snapped back to myself, and said, “Back off!”

As I drove away with my cup of lemonade, I had the strangest feeling. I knew what I’d said wasn’t from me. It was the Holy spirit who spoke through me: saying the exact thing I think that kid needed to hear.

School has been back in session for over seven months now. I routinely check in with Zack to ask him how the bullying situation is going. For the first time in years, not a single kid is giving him a hard time. It makes me cry tears of gratitude and relief every time I think about it!

Sure, it may be that the tide just changed on its own, and the teasing went away naturally. Or, I could pat myself on the back and think I was the one who resolved the issue.

But the real truth is: I got out of the way and let God work through me. When that happens, things always work out the way they’re supposed to.

Questions For Reflection:

     * Is there a certain situation my child is struggling with right now?

     * Am I taking action to solve it? Or can I pray for God to take action through me?

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6 thoughts on “Letting Him Speak

  1. Wow!! this post got me all teary. I am so happy to hear that Zack is having a better year and Thank God that he was able to give you the words that you (and that child) needed. Hugs!!


    • Thanks, Jess. It was a pretty amazing experience, letting Him speak through me. Sadly enough, I don’t do it often enough. Why would I ever think what I have to say is more important than what He has to say? One step forward, two steps back. 🙂


  2. I think Zack’s Guardian Angel arranged that meeting and God was waiting to give you His solution! It’s heartbreaking that sweet kids like Zack are targets for bullies., So very happy that is behind him–love him so much!!! xo


    • I agree completely, Mom! I have been praying and blessing him with holy water every night. More than helping him, I think that’s helped me come to terms with how little I could control the situation. It also opened me up to how God wanted things to play out. I’m SO grateful all is resolved!!!


  3. It breaks my heart to hear Zack has been bullied. I’ve never met a sweeter, kinder boy. He is very special. I’m so glad it has stopped and things are better for Zack. Sending big hugs!


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