“Blind Pharisee, cleanse first the inside of the cup, so that the outside also may be clean.” Matthew 23:26
I had several melt downs this summer over my kids’ ingratitude. Despite planning fun adventures and play dates for them, they were greedy instead of grateful. Almost regularly, I’d hit my limit, and then scream and yell at them for it. That would work for a week or two; but, inevitably, they’d end up ungrateful again.
It took until the last week of summer to finally figure out a way to open their eyes to my perspective. Continue reading
“This generation is an evil generation; it seeks a sign, but no sign will be given it, except the sign of Jonah.” Luke 11:29
Kids always ask “why.” We moms know to adapt our answer based on each child’s age and learning style. Accordingly, we make particular word choices, vary the length of the explanation, and maybe add a story or two to illustrate our point. When we get the combination correct, it’s like unlocking a vault: our lesson or request goes straight to our child’s heart.
However, that process can be exhausting; and everyone has her limit. After a sleepless night, or a too-full calendar, our well of patience can run dry. On those days, when we hear the inevitable “why,” we refuse the request to explain. “Because I said so, ” comes tumbling out of our mouth instead. Continue reading
Thus says the Lord of hosts: Reflect on your experience! Haggai 1:7
Jocelyn has a tendency to replay negative experiences over and over again. Out of the blue, she’ll bring up a bad memory from years ago. She won’t just cry about it; she’ll downright sob. It breaks my heart that she puts herself in these tailspins, for no apparent reason.
I’ve been trying to teach her that she can have power over her thoughts. I explain that when a painful memory pops into her head, she can choose to focus on it, or push it aside.
I know that trying NOT to think about something is actually thinking about it. So I help her replace the thought: together we remember good things that she can think about instead. This technique always works with my boys. Unfortunately, it only works half the time with Jocelyn.
But just the other morning, by complete accident, Jocelyn gave me a whole new approach that I think is the answer to her problem. Continue reading
In this you rejoice, although now for a little while you may have to suffer through various trials, so that the genuineness of your faith… may prove to be for praise, glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ. 1 Peter 1:6-7
My kids aren’t very good at accepting disappointment. It’s probably because I used to try and keep life easy for them, fun and trouble-free.
They’re older now. Like change, disappointment is one of those constants in life: it will always be there. If I don’t succeed in teaching them how to deal with it now, they’re going to struggle as adults.
I’m big into code words and catch phrases. Once I’ve taught my kids a big life-lesson, a catch phrase is a quick verbal reminder when they backslide. I’ve been searching for one for overcoming disappointment for a while now. I finally found it when commemorating the events of 9/11. Continue reading
“I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, and in His word I put my hope.” Psalm 130:5