The Blessing of Good Friends

After David had finished talking with Saul, Jonathan became one in spirit with David, and he loved him as himself.    1 Samuel 18:1
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MOSAIC of Faith weekend retreat: Teresa, Claire, Amy and Jess

     Every night, after my kids are asleep, I go into their rooms and bless them.  I make the sign of the cross on their foreheads with holy water and say, “God, please bless and watch over  ____.  Keep him/her healthy, happy, and safe.  Bring him/her good and true friends.  Help me be the mom he/she needs me to be.  Thank you for the gift of him/her.  Amen.”
     Although my prayer is a plea to God to help me be more patient, understanding, and in tune with each of my kids’ needs, I’m more focused on my plea for God to put good and true friends in my kids’ paths.  I know my job is to create a solid foundation for my kids to build on.  But I also know that there will come a time when their peers will have such an influence over them, they may be tempted to leave my foundation behind, and build on the rocky ground of peers I don’t approve of.
     Toward that end, I have been hyper vigilant and downright controlling when it comes to my kids’ friendships.  Every Friday, for years, I have been coordinating and hosting playdates for them.  My kids perceive them as a reward for getting through the school week.  The real truth is, it’s my way of nurturing friendships with kids I want in their lives.
     A funny thing has happened in the process.  As I pick and choose friends for my kids, I find I am further refining my own definition of what a good friend is for me.  Moreover, the prayer I say over my kids at night has been spilling over onto me.

     I am an old mama, with all different types of friends from the different chapters of my life.  But as the years go by, I have learned so much about myself through marriage and motherhood.  With that knowledge comes a better understanding of what I want in a friend, and who I want to be as a friend.  I’ve also learned that although my husband is wonderful, men aren’t equipped to meet all our emotional needs.  That’s why God gave us girlfriends.  But when God gives us girlfriends that will venture into the realm of faith with us, the relationships reach a level that blesses our lives over and over again.
     I just came back from a weekend retreat with three friends.  Over the course of the three days, not only did each of us have to prepare and serve a meal, but each of us had to prepare and present a session.  Although all the topics varied, there were two elements that they all shared: silent reflection time, and Faith Sharing.
     Faith Sharing is where each person shares her thoughts from her reflection time, uninterrupted.  It’s one thing to hear God talk to you during your reflection time.  It’s a whole different deal to hear Him talk to you through your friends during Faith Sharing.  When you’re truly open and listening with your heart, the experience is life altering.  It moves the bond of friendship deeper than the heart; it moves it into the depths of the soul.  It is there that the relationships becomes sacred. It is there that the relationships becomes holy.  It is truly a gift from God to experience this.
     Zack just started Middle School, and I can feel the playing field shifting.  I know the time is coming when my opinion of his choice in friends won’t matter as much, if at all.  That’s when my nighttime blessing will take on a fierceness like never before.  But that’s also where I have to trust in God.  If He can create sacred and holy friendships in my life, He can certainly create them in Zack’s.
     If you live in southern New Hampshire or northern Massachusetts and you’re longing for faith filled women in your life, I encourage you to attend a MOSAIC of Faith retreat, and/or join a MOSAIC Moms monthly group.  All MOSAIC of Faith gatherings include reflection time and Faith Sharing where a sacred space is created to be heard, and to hear God through others.  For more information, click on the tabs above.

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5 thoughts on “The Blessing of Good Friends

  1. Love this post and love you!!

    I too am so blessed to have such wonderful friends in my life. These friends support me, challenge me and make me laugh as we share this crazy journey down here on earth. I thank God everyday for the amazing people he has blessed me with and I too pray that my children will continue to be just as blessed in the friend department as they are now as they grow older.

    Your retreats and the Mosaic of Faith groups are an incredible way to step away from the busyness of life for a bit, sit, pray, reflect and as you said “hear” God in multiple ways. It is my prayer that EVERY woman of faith gets a chance to experience at least one of these amazing things. God did not want us to travel this journey alone and it is through opportunities like this that we can travel with not only him but with some amazing woman here on earth!!

    Thank you for all you do Claire!!!


  2. Claire, you are blessing so many people with all the facets of your ministry, it’s no mystery why you have such truly wonderful and faith filled friends! I have no doubt that God has sent them to you because being like-minded, you and they support and help each other. You are truly gifts for each other. As always, I love your ability to see beyond the moment and prepare for the future. I am so proud of you and your ability to express your faith in so many ways and with such clarity. Love you xoxo


  3. It seems to me you are doing all the right things to steer your children in the right direction. Your posts are in the back of my mind as well so I think, in a way, I hope me to a small degree. Keep them coming Claire.


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