Don’t Focus on the No

Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

11.28.19 Don't Focus on the No

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Like any household, things go in cycles in our home. The cycle we’re in lately seems to be a Yes one: Whatever my kids have been asking for recently seems appropriate and doable. So, I’ve found myself going along with them. Needless to say, there’s been a lot of joy and gratitude.

I’m trying to capitalize on this phase as a teaching moment.

It’s human nature to be more open when things are going our way. Knowing that, I’ve been planting the seed in my kids that this season of Yes won’t last forever; I will be saying No in the future if and when their requests are inappropriate, not doable, or not in their best interest. When that time comes, I don’t want them to fixate on the No. I want them to reflect back and remember all the times I’ve been saying Yes.

I’m trying to help them see the big picture: There are reasons why we don’t always get what we want. We can’t always see or understand those reasons, but we have to trust those in charge.

It’s a lesson I’m still learning as an adult. Today, on Thanksgiving, I’m reflecting back on the past year. It’s been a really hard year with a lot of No’s for me. But when I shift my focus, and look at all the times God has said Yes to me, things seem to fall into place. I can actually see where some of those No’s were actually for my own good.

Shifting my focus from the No’s to the Yes’s has me seeing how forever faithful God is. Not only does that lead me to trust Him more and more, but it has me praising Him and giving Him thanks.

Questions for Reflection:

     * Do I focus more on the times when God says No to me, or the times when He says Yes?

     * When I focus on the Yes’s, does it help me see the reasons for the No’s?

Grateful for you: My subscribers and readers. Your comments, support, and words of encouragement have helped me through a very difficult year. Please know that I’m not just grateful for you today, but everyday! I hope you all have a wonderful and blessed Thanksgiving!

2 thoughts on “Don’t Focus on the No

  1. Wow! Such an important lesson for ALL of us. It is so important to focus on those “Yes” moments but it is so hard with the “NO’s” consume our thoughts and feelings. Thank you Claire!


    • Oh I hear you, Jess! Funny how just one No can completely obliterate nine Yes’s from our memories! That’s why Thanksgiving and Gratitude Journals are so important and helpful. Thank YOU for reading and commenting! Blessings and lots of focus on all the Yes’s to you!


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