“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life…” Matthew 6:25
On the long list of what I want for each of my kids is a small and close circle of good friends. I don’t need them to be the most popular kids in school. I just want them to have a few friends that they can have fun with, can lean on, and who share our same values.
Consequently, I try to foster and nurture friendships with the good kids we cross paths with. I work hard at constantly scheduling and driving my kids to playdates. But over the years, I’ve learned that no matter how hard I try, I can’t always control my kids’ friendships. Whether their interests shift, their class rosters change, or it’s just the natural order of things, some friendships wane, and kids grow apart.
I don’t typically sit back and worry about a problem. I prefer to take action to fix things. Part of it is a control thing. Another part of it is a need to show my kids that when life throws us a curve, we don’t curl up in a ball, defeated. Instead, we figure out a solution and work towards it. I’m trying to teach my kids that there isn’t a problem that can’t be solved.
So when I bump up against issues like Zack’s social circle dwindling, and I can’t fix it, I do default to worry. And worry can wreak havoc. It puts my stomach in knots, keeps me awake at night, and blinds me to what is good in my life. It amazes me how much time and energy worry can consume.
And then the gift comes. Something – a song, a friend, or my Bible reminds me why worry exists. If I’m open to it, worry teaches me that I am not in control, God is. He is the One who can solve the problems that I can’t.
Matthew 6:25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life” not only refers to my life, but to my kids’ lives as well. All that time and energy I waste on worrying about them needs to be converted into prayer. I also have to stop being lazy at night; I need to resume my nighttime ritual of blessing my sleeping kids with holy water, asking God to “bring them good and true friends.” He loves my kids even more than I do. He WILL provide.
There’s a transient element to my town. Just like families move away, new families move in. There will be new friends in Zack’s future. Yes, my job is to still seek out the good kids and invite them over. But above all, my most important job is to pray, and then trust God to have Zack’s back.
Questions For Reflection:
* What worries do I have for my kids?
* Have I tried turning those worries into prayer, trusting God to solve them?
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