Trusting in Wisdom

A wise son heeds his father’s instruction. Proverbs 13:1a

My oldest son, Zack, is getting his driver’s license soon. He’s been saving to buy himself a car but doesn’t have nearly enough. My husband, John, suggested they go in on a car together and share it. They decided it was a good plan. My husband is now car shopping.

John’s searching for a practical vehicle, one all five of us can fit in for the long drive to see his parents in New Jersey. He wants one that handles well in the snow, gets good gas mileage, etc. Zack has gone in the complete opposite direction.

His friend, Billy, is a car guy. He bought an old police cruiser and souped it up with a front grill, a “Dukes of Hazard” horn, and one of those contraptions that makes the engine louder for effect. Billy has convinced Zack that he should get a pickup truck.

The two of them are planning on raising the height of it and taking off the doors like an open-air Jeep. They also want to take the tailgate off, shoot some bullet holes in it and then re-install it. Zack is so excited about the plan he can’t stop talking about it.

Clearly there’s a disconnect between John and Zack’s vision of what their shared vehicle will be. Because Zack has his friend scheming and agreeing with him, Zack believes his vision should win. We’ve toyed with the idea of just getting two vehicles to solve the problem. But we don’t want to make that extra insurance payment each month.

This is when wisdom has to win the day. As adults, we have to go with John’s vision. Yes, it’s not as fun, but experience has taught us we need to be practical.

John had the tough conversation with Zack this morning. It didn’t go as badly as you would have imagined because Zack is still hanging onto the hope that he can pester us into going with what he wants.

I see myself in all of this: trying to convince God that I know what’s best for me more than He does. When I have someone on my side who agrees with what I want, I dig my heels in even deeper and pester God, trying to strong-arm Him into giving me my way.

Just like I can see how Zack has to be the one to let go of his plan, I need to be willing to do the same with God.

That’s the difference between asking boldly and demanding. I loved hearing Zack’s outlandish ideas and really would have loved to make it a reality for him. But he has to trust our wisdom and be willing to accept that we know what’s best.

God too welcomes our outlandish requests and pleas. But then we need to let go of them, trusting His wisdom to know which ones are right for us and which ones are not.

Questions for Reflection:

  • Do I ask boldly for what I want from God?
  • Do I then trust His wisdom to decide if it’s right for me?

6 thoughts on “Trusting in Wisdom

  1. Your description of John, your husband, dealing with a truly foolish request by Zack
    about the type of car he wants convinces me all the more of the need for such wise fathers in all families today. But my heart and experience tell me sadly that these God filled dads like John seem more like the exception today than the norm! Bringing up a teenage boy in today’s society I truly believe must be one of the most challenging jobs any parent can face, especially when the young man makes an unwise request hoping Dad will give permission. So I honor parents, like you, Claire, and John who can be honest and seemingly strict at such unwise requests, as this one by Zach, out of genuine love. It is at these challenging times you reflect beautifully the Love and Wisdom our Heavenly Father relies on you to pour out to your children. I can only stress again how blessed Zach is to have such a father as John


    • Thanks so much Jackie! I feel John and I are growing and learning as much as Zack is. This is a path all of us have never been down before. Trying to strike a middle ground, I do envision us getting an SUV and putting in a train horn. So if you hear one outside your window someday, you’ll know it’s us! πŸ™‚


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